How to find THE G-Spot
The G-spot can be a place of mystery for those searching for that hidden treasure. Many folks have heard about it, but their spelunking efforts have been unsuccessful. In fact, some doctors may even say that the G-spot is a myth. That, my friends, is like saying that having a femur is a myth. All of those lucky enough to have a vulva and vaginal canal have a G-spot. Whether or not one likes having their G-spot stimulated may be the real question.
The G-spot has many aliases; the urethral sponge and the female prostate (or prostata femina) are just a couple of its other names. Anatomically speaking, the urethral sponge is located towards the anterior (towards the belly) part of the vaginal wall. When aroused this tissue swells up and becomes engorged with blood, just like a penis. It is sometimes actually visible at the vaginal opening. The urethra (the opening that urine and female ejaculate comes out of) is surrounded by the G-spot. If the vaginal opening were a clock with the clitoris at noon, the G-spot would be located between 11:00 and 1:00. The G-spot is not very long it only runs about 2-3 inches deep inside of the vagina.
Where and how exactly someone prefers to have their G-spot stimulated can vary from person to person. Some may enjoy having the area just at the vaginal opening fingered, licked, or massaged. Others may prefer applying lots of pressure in just one spot of the female prostate. Some might get off on having the length of the sponge stroked. This can be especially effective if one were laying on her back and someone would insert a finger or two pointing up towards her belly, then stroking the fingers in a come hither motion.
Our first words of advice to those wanting to explore G-spot stimulation would be to wait to stroke that wonder spot until you are very turned on. It is of utmost importance for folks to have gone through the physiological changes of arousal before you go poking around in there. Not only is the G-spot much more receptive to pleasure once it has become engorged with blood, but the inside of the vagina changes as well to accommodate something to be inserted, whether it be a finger, toy or a penis (or a zucchini, or a gearshif).
When a woman gets aroused, the vaginal walls lubricate and actually kind-of balloon open, and the cervix lifts. Many folks who have tried stimulating their G-spot before they are fully aroused complain of the sensation feeling irritating or uncomfortable. Keep in mind that the arousal cycle for women tends to be much longer than for men, and to really enjoy the realm of sensation that G-spot stimulation can offer; it's best to be patient.
Some folks prefer to have their G-spot stimulated once they are on the verge of orgasm, during or after. That way, the physiological changes of arousal are well under way. For those who are new to G-spot stimulation, it is common to feel the urgency of having to urinate. Chances are, you don't actually have to go to the bathroom, it's just that the urethral sponge is so closely connected to the bladder and all the other equipment designed for urination, that it's the only sensation your body can associate this new sensation with. Most people who feel like they have to pee during sex will most likely stop having sex. Then you go to the bathroom, and only a couple of drops come out. For those worried about the possibility of peeing during sex, I have two suggestions: 1.) Pee before you have sex so you are certain that your bladder is empty. 2.) When you feel that sensation of having to pee, just continue with the stimulation. Chances are that feeling of having to pee will subside, and could conclude in an orgasm from G-spot stimulation.
There are a variety of methods that can be effective in stimulating your G-spot. A favorite and very successful G-spot stimulator is someone else's fingers. Fingers are great! You can bend them, add more girth, and provide varying amounts of pressure unlike most toys or a penis. Although there are positions recommended during penis-vaginal intercourse for G-spot stimulation, it can be one of the more unsuccessful attempts at really getting to that right spot. Most often a penis will just glide on by, and not provide the necessary pressure many people need in order to feel the waves of ecstasy when they are having a successful attempt at stimulating their G-spot.
In terms of toys, the firmer, the better. Many stainless stell and glass toys are on the market, and these can be great G-spot stimulators because they are so rigid. We've got a lot of vibrators and dildos that work well for G-spot play as well. Many of them are curved to create sensations of stroking or pressure. Quite a few of our silicone dildos have ridges or prominent heads, which may also do wonders for the G-spot.
Keep in mind that sex is like food. Just because one person loves green bell peppers doesn't mean that everyone will. Same thing goes with our sexual preferences. Just because your best friend loves having her G-spot stimulated doesn't necessarily mean that you will. You'll at least have fun trying, though, right?
